Posts Tagged "Co-Dependency"

How Fear Of Abandonment Leads To Love Addiction

Posted by on 03 28 15 in Love Addiction News | Comments Off on How Fear Of Abandonment Leads To Love Addiction

If you are a love addict, you probably have a habit of picking people who seem to require a lot of effort and energy. You spend a ton of time obsessing about the other person and working at making your relationships work. The men or women you get involved with are typically emotionally unavailable and may make you feel like they are ignoring or rejecting you. One of the most common characteristics of people who become love addicts is fear of abandonment. You may have been neglected or abandoned as a child. Now you are terrified of being abandoned, but you are drawn to people who repeatedly...

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Should You Consider Separation as Part of Love Addiction Therapy?

Posted by on 10 02 14 in Love Addiction News | Comments Off on Should You Consider Separation as Part of Love Addiction Therapy?

Love addiction can be a silent killer of relationships that largely goes unnoticed by those who are caught up in the vicious cycle of drama and toxicity. Sure, they may understand something is not quite right, but that they actually have an addiction often doesn’t cross their minds. I used to fall into that category. Before I knew what love addiction was, I thought my relationship problems stemmed from my partner’s lack of common sense when it came to how to partner. I blamed, judged and criticized every time I felt neglected or rejected. That is, until someone recognized my addiction and...

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The Love Addict’s Cycle

Posted by on 09 19 14 in Romance Addiction | Comments Off on The Love Addict’s Cycle

Like a lot of couples today, Kelli and Darren met online. They struck up a fun, easy-going email exchange right off the bat and quickly moved into face-to-face territory. Their first date wasn’t a one-on-one coffee or dinner, though; they met in a park with their children. Kelli and Darren were both divorced parents, and this fact seemed to unite them. The children’s presence did nothing to dampen their romantic excitement; the couple fell hard and fast. Soon, they were seeing or speaking to each other daily and spending several nights a week together, kids in tow. Nevertheless, the...

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What Is a Codependent Relationship? Part 2

Posted by on 06 28 14 in Love Addiction News | Comments Off on What Is a Codependent Relationship? Part 2

Continued from “What Is a Codependent Relationship? Part 1“ Codependent behaviors and patterns aren’t only focused outwardly. The codependent individual spends a great deal of time resentful toward him or herself; it’s overwhelming and exhausting to constantly be attending to the needs of others, never saying “no,” and never having anyone trying to rescue you. He or she may feel anger for always overextending, but simultaneously afraid to set a boundary yet feels guilty if he or she is unable to comply with all of the commitments of caretaking. If the codependent is in a...

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The Danger of Enmeshed Relationships

Posted by on 12 20 13 in Love Addiction News | Comments Off on The Danger of Enmeshed Relationships

Avery was certain she loved Jack within days of meeting him; he was handsome and funny and knew how to treat a lady, something Avery had been taught to look for by her father. After only two weeks of dating, the pair elected to move in together. Two years into the relationship,  the couple still almost never spent time apart. When Jack had a bad day at work, coming home aggravated and moody, Avery was just as affected. She felt irritable and helpless, unable to change Jack’s state of mind or ease her own. Likewise, if Avery grew sad or depressed, Jack’s mood took a plunge; they seemed...

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